OUR SEX LIFE IS AMAZING BUT THE MARRIAGE SUCKS
I woke up horny.
I started touching my wife on her breasts.
I flipped her over. Got on top of her.
I started kissing her, but she seemed not interested.
I turned my game up. Kissed her on her neck as i spread her legs. She looked off.
“What’s wrong?” I asked.
“Us” she said.
“What do you mean?” I asked.
“The only thing we do great together is having sex” She said.
“I thought you love our sex. I am faithful to you, I don’t cheat” i told her.
“I do. You sex me good. But marriage is more than sex. It is not enough to be faithful, marriage needs to have depth, substance; not centered around sex. I don’t want us to be two empty souls that are faithful to each other. We had it, we used to have depth. I want us to talk, to laugh, to pray, to date again even in our marriage, to cuddle, to make memories, to play with our children, to travel and see the world, to debate on topics like we used to, to play a sport, to go for concerts, to have intimacy in our marriage. What we currently have is not marriage, but a sexual arrangement. Sex is just not enough” she lamented.
“Ouch! That’s painful” said i.
“The painful truth” said she.
I started stroking her hair gently and said, “You are right. Things changed when we got kids, life got busy I guess”
She looked at me and said, “Darling people make time for what is important. I want to be more than the mother of your children, I am your wife, I want to feel like a wife. I want quality time with you like we used to have; not alot, just enough. I want to be loved and talked to. I want our time. When was the last time you stroked my hair like you are right now?”
“A long time ago” i answered.
She placed her finger on my lips and said, “Exactly, you haven’t taken time to look at me because we both are always in a hurry. You know a woman doesn’t ask for much. Even something as little as you stroking my hair touches my heart. So many wives are tired of sex in their marriage: They fake orgasms, fake headaches or exhaustion and some pretend they are on their periods just to escape having sex with their husbands because they don’t feel married. I want to feel married my love. I don’t want to become like those women. This home is not a lodge for you to come, sleep, get sex then leave day in day out. This is our home, our bed, our marriage. I need you my husband”
“I need you too” i told her and kissed her.
The kiss was sweet, intense, not rushed and not sexual. It was intimate.
I reclined back to the bed.
I placed her head on my chest and for a while we talked as i played with her fingers. We laughed, randomly prayed, opened up and emotionally connected.
Since then, our marriage is not centered around sex; and when we do have sex, it’s not sex, it’s making love.
Have you made your marriage empty as you hide behind sex? There is more to Marriage than Sex.
Please Spice up your Marriage.
Drop your habits that can ruin your home and then u blame it on the devil.